“Helping a person in need is good in itself. But the degree of goodness is hugely affected by the attitude with which it is done. If you show resentment because you are helping the person out of a reluctant sense of duty, then the person may recieve your help but may feel awkward and embarrassed. This is because he will feel beholden to you. If,on the other hand, you help the person in a spirit of joy, then the help will be received joyfully. The person will feel neither demeaned nor humiliated by your help, but rather will feel glad to have caused you pleasure by receiving your help. And joy is the appropriate attitude with which to help others because acts of generosity are a source of blessing to the giver as well as the receiver.” (St. John Chrysostom) Yes, it is all about attitude! Why am I doing what I am doing? Begrudgingly or freely? Obligation or love? Looking for something in return or the sheer joy in doing it? Publicly to be seen or being unnoticed? One will be meaningless, the other fruitful. A bad tree bears bad fruit; a good tree bares good fruit. Choose your weapon.